I had a weight loss client who said every time she opened the refrigerator, it was after a thought that it was hopeless anyway. She acknowledged that these thoughts of hopelessness led her to feel hopeless about her weight and dietary compliance. What could she do to find hope? It’s no secret that our thoughts […]
I was at lunch with a friend yesterday, enjoying pizza and a salad at Little Deli sandwich and pizza shop. He asked what a successful coaching relationship looked like.Here you’ll find 13 elements of an amazing coaching relationship, plus four things that just don’t work. Spoiler: even with an amazing coach, successful clients must be […]
There I was at lunch with a friend today. He’s an engineering program manager for a local research organization. We met in a course recently, though we might have known each other for years. He’s a kind soul. A good heart. Warm. Friendly. Smart. We all know someone like him. Or we should. Or I […]
There I was at work: a team member said something that sounded like fearful gossip about another team (examples are in numbered headings below). While fear-mongering and gossip does occur in the workplace, there’s a skill in correctly managing these interactions. Sometimes, these are opportunities to discuss concerns that are or could be impacting project […]
The lead software developer on my team came by my desk to tell me she needed to tell me something. She wanted to talk in private, in a conference room, apparently due to the sensitive nature of the message. Once in the small room, she broke the news. “We’re screwed. The team and I have […]
There I was at work, walking down the hallway to check in with a coworker. Another coworker approached me, moving fast. “That <insert profanity here> just fired me!”* “Whoa!”, I said. “You’re still in the building. Usually you’d be walked out the door if you’d been fired.” “My last day is next Friday.” “Will you […]
