Your first assignment was to complete the 5 Step Values Exercise. If you haven’t reviewed the instructions yet and attempted to start, go do it now. I’ll wait.

On the other hand…

here you go…

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One Person’s Results From Doing The 5 Step Values Exercise

Here is how my results played out as I did the exercise, step by step.

1. Values I Lived By

I saw I lived by the values of duty, service, family, money, and security. I went to work every day and loyally provided for my family. My single-minded focus on money and security and providing for others left me not taking care of myself and feeling like a victim, serving everyone else in my life. I was boring and uninteresting because all I cared about was doing my job and fulfilling the mission implied by these 5 values. I didn’t have others’ consent that topics I cared about were valuable, so I ignored my own interests. My relationships were in tatters. My wife resented me. Members of my staff and my boss didn’t like me. I was unhappy, unfulfilled, miserable, deeply in debt, and not doing a great job meeting goals that would be consistent with these values.

2. Values I Wanted To Live By

The values that inspired me were fantastic relationships, health, fitness, service, and objectivity. To live by these values, I:

Retrospectively, I see how I could have lived my life by these values back in step 1. I also see that I could have had more fun and been more fun to be around. I could have been more inspired by my situation and my roles, instead of a victim in them.

3. Activities Or Interests

My list of interests included the following:

In that list of interests, I saw a sense of adventure. I saw a commitment to health and fitness, and making things last for the long-term. I saw a willingness, even a need, to serve, which requires the ability to see things from others’ points of view.

4. Revised List

Over time, I’ve refined the list. As I’ve done so, I’ve found the values that inspire me most are adventure, health ,fitness, service, and sustainability. (Go here to learn more about how I interpret these values and how I narrowed an initial list of a dozen to just these 5.)

To live by these values, I:

5. Sharing

I shared with parents and siblings, coworkers, members of my running team, and triathletes I’ve met out on the course! I’ve joined professional organizations and shared with members there. This web site, and this very article, arose out of my intention to share. My interests are now highly visible all over my life. It’s impossible for people not to know what I’m up to and what I care about. My life hasn’t fallen apart: it gets better every day. We have fun!


YOU do the exercise.

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