It’s hard to create lasting change.
Statistics have shown 9 in 10 goals go unmet.
The foundations of failure lie in a few areas.
If you’re not getting the result you want, something’s missing in one or more of those areas.
Here are the places to look.
Clarity of Purpose
- We have no incentive. If we don’t have a big enough goal, we have no reason to undertake the work and inconvenience of developing new habits. When we have a meaningful goal, nothing can stop us!
- We get distracted.
- We pack a healthy lunch and a friend invites us to Mexican food.
- An urgent project comes up.
- A setback makes us so frustrated, we “lose our cool”.
- We reach into the fridge for a carrot, then we see the pudding cups.
Clarity of Plan
- We forget. Old habits die hard, and it takes consistent focus (for a little while) to build new ones.
- We don’t know how. Everyone needs a guide to do the thing they haven’t done before. Without it, we are bound to fail.
- We get confused. Is fruit healthier than pound cake? Should I be accommodating or stand my ground? In the face of confusing or misleading options, we get frustrated and stop.
- We don’t start. Either we make an excuse, we convince ourselves we can’t succeed, or we believe someone else’s story about why we won’t succeed.
- We have no support. Wouldn’t it be great to have a place to go for little questions that come up, a word of authentic encouragement, and a safe space to vent frustration and get back on track?
- We have no encouragement. Humans are social animals, and we need to know our tribe accepts us. Nothing will stop us faster than being ignored or told our behavior is unacceptable.
- We have no help. Everyone needs help from an experienced mentor to meet a big goal in an area they haven’t operated successfully before.
- We quit. Some programs rigidly require so much lifestyle change it seems impossible. When it seems too hard or we experience a setback, we give up or give in.
We don’t meet goals because we lack:
- clarity, or
- a workable plan, or
- What did you see here that is new to you?
- Which of the above have you experienced? (I bet you can name a time you experienced each of the above.)
- Which of the above would make the biggest difference for you now?