The reasons it’s so hard to create lasting change
- We forget. Old habits die hard, and it takes consistent focus (for a little while) to build new ones.
- We get distracted. We pack a healthy lunch and a friend invites us to Mexican food. We say we’ll be home for dinner, and an important project distracts us for another hour. A setback makes us so frustrated, we “lose our cool”.
- We quit. Some programs rigidly require so much lifestyle change it seems impossible. When it seems too hard or we experience a setback, we give up or give in.
- We have no incentive. If we don’t have a big enough goal, we have no reason to undertake the work and inconvenience of developing new habits. When we have a meaningful goal, nothing can stop us!
- We don’t know how. Everyone needs a guide to do the thing they haven’t done before. Without it, we are bound to fail.
- We get confused. Is fruit healthier than pound cake? Should I be accommodating or stand my ground? In the face of confusing or misleading options, we get frustrated and stop.
- We have no help. Everyone needs help from an experienced mentor to achieve a big goal in an area they haven’t operated successfully before.
- We have no encouragement. Humans are social animals, and we need to know our tribe accepts us. Nothing will stop us faster than being ignored or told our behavior is unacceptable.
- We have no support. Wouldn’t it be great to have a place to go for little questions that come up, a word of authentic encouragement, and a safe space to vent frustration and get back on track?
“It’s actually not painful to learn something, if you do it incrementally.”
Use a project framework and tools to:
- create laser-like focus on exactly what you want and what you need to do,
- re-invent yourself, your lifestyle, and your work life to powerfully support you,
- devise workable action plans to deliver the results in the context of your own life and lifestyle,
- master the skills necessary to build and sustain the results, and
- build habits that will support you for a lifetime.
3 Phases of Transformation:
- Plan your Purpose.
- Give yourself permission,
- Create a dashboard,
- Prepare to have fun,
- Reveal your written and unwritten, formal and informal policies. Rewrite those that hinder success.
- Purpose – Clarify your purpose.
- Plot your Path.
- Product – Define measurable outcomes.
- People – Name your stakeholders. See how they will help or hinder you. Create your team and a plan to manage it.
- Places – Name your environments. See how they will help or hinder you. Create a plan to manage your environment.
- Plans – Define actions that will move people and places to support success in your initiative.
- Perform and Produce.
- Practice – Execute plans. Take actions. Assess results. Modify plans. Repeat.
- Perform – See measurable progress. Measure it. Celebrate!
- Produce – Experience meaningful, lasting results. Enjoy. Repeat!
Bedrock principles of the program
The framework enables anyone to quickly learn, use, and personalize fundamentals of sustainable change from:
- Management of Innovation: apply tools used by successful innovators to accelerate change, fail small and fast, and create a system that reinforces continuous improvement.
- Agile Product Development: define desired outcomes and goals, then iterate to find an ideal path.
- Strategic Intervention Coaching: practical and effective forms of strategic action and communication from a variety of disciplines, including psychology, neurolinguistics, strategy, diplomacy, negotiation, and others.
- Neuroscience: learn some biological bases of human thought and behavior, and how to apply them to your advantage.
- Ontology and Phenomenology: see where your interpretation of reality is not based on facts, and rewire your world view where it’s been holding you back.
“Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.”